Then one day I found this book by Elizabeth George. My initial thoughts about getting this book, “Maybe this will give me ways to change my husband.” Hah, did I have another thing coming.
A Wife After God’s Own Heart eased me into God’s desire for a godly wife. Using biblical examples and super simple things to apply to my daily life our marriage was being transformed. She starts it simple with using a one word answer for things, “sure”. Start small, when he asks you to do something, like the dishes, just say “sure” and do it. No questions, excuses, etc. Then I began doing the dishes without being asked. His first thoughts were “I wonder what she wants”. I would often ‘do’ to ‘get’ and obviously I had done it enough that he instantly suspected. But I did dishes for a month without being asked and didn’t stop. Then it happened with the laundry then with basic housecleaning. He actually asked me one day “Who are you and what have you done with my wife?” My transformation was just so vivid and sincere. He has never asked for a Proverbs 31 wife or a home maker just a wife that loves him and helps with life and all the daily things that come with it.
As I finished the book I realized I had changed. I was more eager to please than be pleased. My thinking became more geared toward how I could help him and pray for him daily and not on what he could do for me. The best irony is that as he began to understand that this was not a passing fancy he wanted to reciprocate and help me. Thus after 8 years of marriage we were attaining our idea of the perfect marriage. Going out of our way to help and aid the other was giving us so much fulfillment. This was like nothing we had experience in our marriage before.
We were no different than hundreds of others on the verge of divorce but, thanks to God, He put this book in my path and He saved our marriage with it.
I can never thank Elizabeth George enough for her biblical wisdom and insight on the topic of a godly wife. I know she gleaned it all from her own trial and error per the examples she shares. I am grateful for her openness and willingness to pass on her wisdom.
I am always eager to share my personal story and with that it leads to sharing her book. Saving a marriage is not easy but hearing or reading about others success stories and utilizing any insight could help save someone else’s.
Whether you are having issues or not this book is invaluable and you are sure to reread it and share it with others.